The way single people meet and begin relationships has been changed dramatically by the wondrous plethora of online dating sites readily available to the masses. And it can be argued that these changes, that have brought a whole new dimension to dating, may have occurred for the better.
The days of drunken initial meetings in bars and clubs have long been banished, and replaced with online communication from the comfort of your own home with people you have more information on that simply what they look like, what alcohol they like to drink and how dodgy their dance moves are. It seems that love, or the possibility of it, is reachable with a few clicks of a mouse and taps on a keyboard…
Right, so maybe it’s not as easy peasy as many dating sites may claim on their somewhat cheesy TV adverts, but online dating is definitely worth a try, and perhaps the tips below will help increase your confidence and chance of success…
1. Be honest when writing your profile.
Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to your online dating profile.It’s easy to feel pressurised into adding fake hobbies and interests to your profile just because everybody else seems to have loads and because you don’t want to appear boring. Doing this will only create problems and potential embarrassment in the future when somebody quizzes you on your profile.Remember, you deserve someone who likes and wants you for the person you are, not the one you’re pretending to be.
2. Don’t be put off merely by a photo.
Although it’s most likely the majority of people will have selected the most flattering photo they can find for as profile picture, in reality, some people simply don’t take a good photograph. It’s well worth keeping this in mind if you come across someone online who shares your similar interests and hobbies and who you enjoy interacting with, as, should you choose to meet face-to-face, you may find yourself attracted to them in person.
3. Consider beforehand what you feel is important in a life partner.
It’s wise to explore beforehand what you’re looking for in a potential life partner before you begin interacting to people on a dating site. One fab thing about online dating is that, technically, you’re in control of finding a partner who possesses exactly – or near enough – what you want. Although nobody is 100% perfect, with online dating it’s possible to control, at least to a degree, the specifics you find desirable, for example, the level of partner’s education, their income, whether they smoke, drink or want (or have) children. Although these things might not matter in the short term, they can become sources of conflict and deal-breaking issues in the future, so it’s well worth considering what you want or don’t want so you can find somebody who matches you and your needs in the most significant areas.
4. Get your friends and family to help.
Writing an online dating profile can be really tough, especially if you’re extremely modest or shy, or perhaps even suffer from low self-esteem in this type of arena. If you’re finding it tricky to list your positive characteristics, ask your closest friends and/or family to help! This may help you to identify and actively acknowledge your most positive qualities, and it may even give you the confidence you need to write great things about yourself.
5. Try not to be embarrassed about meeting a partner online.
Gone is the traditional stigma attached to online dating. So many people have taken to the Internet to find love, practically everyone knows someone who’s tried it, and many of us know people who are in lasting relationships, and even marriage, having found partners online. With the unsurprising rise in popularity of online dating, it’s hardly shocking that the stigma has been all but entirely eradicated in recent years.
Furthermore, consider it this way: it makes so much more sense for people to meet in a way that allows them to consider physical attractiveness but, simultaneously, match less superficial requirements, for example, interests, lifestyle and important life priorities, than for people to meet in drunken, intense environments where physical attraction is virtually the ONLY factor under considered.
This post was written by Becky Stretton, author of the parenting blog, Green Duo. Visit her blog to read all about Becky, her husband Steve, their new baby daughter Phoebe-Rae and all their adventures in their green, eco-friendly household.